Girls, on the other hand, are raised to know their place...their purpose in life is to make sure the men are happy. In the larger towns and cities, women have careers, they have important roles to play and they do their best to be seen as equal to men. The old habits still exist, and will probably continue way into the future. However, if she has a strong character..heaven forbid...opinions (like me) ..there's a lot of adjustment to be made.Those foreign women who are married to Turkish men often find it difficult to adjust to the Turkish male mentality. All marriages need compromise, whether inter-racial or not.As this dating website with Turkish singles is run by Turkish dating professionals, all concerns of Turkish people have been taken into consideration.Zoe Mendelson is traveling the world, talking to friends and strangers about the messy, wonderful business of love. They do anything for their ladies,” one of the men agreed. ” “But really,” she continued, “the boys are much softer and the girls are getting more powerful because they think their rights were underestimated through history. In our culture, which is ancient, the women have a lot of sway,” the woman explained. They were starting to catch on to my astonishment and were all smiling. Instantly the woman’s finger was pointing in the air: “I have something to say about this! Like compared to Turkish guys, who are rough and they’re cheaters and they’re hard core—which is why I like them—[she winked] Persian men are like really nice and soft. “How do they do that, if there’s no bars —“ I started to ask. You can get anything you want.” The female cousin mused: “Iranians are very influenced by American culture. Most educated families allow their children to date.” Thinking of the next thing I took for granted about the country, I asked how Persian men treat their wives.I didn’t want to turn playtime into work time but the opportunity seemed too ripe to relinquish. How often do we get to share a beer and actually try to understand each other? I told them that I was writing about dating cultures in different countries. But you know, everything forbidden is more interesting.” I asked how dating is different for them in Istanbul than it is back home and both men instantly replied that it was way easier to date back home in Iran. ” One said and laughed, but then added more seriously, “Maybe they feel more freely. But because they are so repressed, they go to extremes to compensate. They’re totally dressed up and made up and with the hair… They’ve got like three boyfriends, they’re always screwing around… They explained that the right of divorce is the man’s, but that most middle and upper class men sign a clause in their pre-nuptial agreement giving their wife the same right. The graduation rates are like 62 percent girls.” I walked away from this conversation a bit rattled and sad.They agreed to interviews but definitely, absolutely did not want me to use their names; they said it could end up preventing them from re-entering Iran at all. When you’re in a closed place and you’re under pressure, you want to experience something that is illegal.” The other chimed in, “Yes, I have had 15 girlfriends and I’m only 30! But here, it’s much harder to get girls.” I asked if girls in Iran have sex before marriage and one of the men speculated that 10 or 15 years ago only 10 percent of girls would, but that now the percentage is probably closer to 90. Not sad for the Persian women, but rather that in my mind and in the general American imagination, we paint them as such helpless victims.
Keep him in suspense.” Teasing the suitor is strongly advised. ” he said, feigning spite, and then in a high-pitched voice said, “I love you. You’re the only man for me.” The other man laughed and nodded. In the capital city, in Tehran, it’s like drugs and orgies,” one of the men explained. “Yes well, if everyone drinks so much so much and there’s a lot of drugs…” He explained that since Tehran is so close to Afghanistan, which produces a huge amount of drugs, “Iran is the gateway of drugs to the West. “Well, it depends on the culture of the family;” one of the men explained, “I even know some families where the girls’ boyfriends used to live with them. I heard that Turkish men see foreign women like American, British etc women as "easy" and they only use foreign women for sex but then marry a Turkish girl? 1- Especially among those working in coastal touristic areas it´s quiet common to have more than one girlfriend at the same time. They have sex while they´re on holiday and sometimes ask for money when the girls return, making up tragic stories about themselves. Those who marry elderly women in order to move to a European country, get money and/or get citizenship after a few years. And of course those who develop normal/honest relationships with them. Why most Turkish people think everyone else is racist and everyone is against them? I heard that Turkish men see foreign women like American, British etc women as "easy" and they only use foreign women for sex but then marry a Turkish girl? I would name a few kinds of relations turkish guys develop with foreign women. I heard that Turkish men see foreign women like American, British etc women as "easy" and they only use foreign women for sex but then marry a Turkish girl? I´m not sure if that is as common enough to create a stereotype but I can say that is true in general.They are swept off their feet with the charm that oozes from Turkish men..yes they are very charming...romantic and so different from the men they perhaps have been used to. There has to be a determination on both sides to want to make it work, but it's not always easy.